I feel free; one month on I feel a sense of freedom and relief.
I stopped using Facebook on January 1st, even for work. It was a new year’s resolution that I committed to for the month. And I’ll tell you why.
The following reasons:
- To make space for my family who felt I was on Facebook all the time. I didn’t think that.
- To prove to my family I didn’t need to be on it all the time. They thought I wouldn’t stop.
- Too much time on my phone looking at nonsense posts.
- Feeling the need to report ‘news’ to Facebook friends on an almost daily basis.
- Checking phone morning and night for something that I might need to know about someone else’s life.
- Checking for ‘likes’ and comments on a post.
- The overall lack of fulfillment it was bringing me.
- An increase in negative and unhelpful thoughts.
- To make space and time for more meaningful things.
- Something needed to change. Something didn’t fell right.
I have to be honest, it felt like I had lost my arm at first. It felt very odd. I wasn’t quite sure what to do with that newly gained time at first. I wanted more space but what was I meant to do with it? I did take some time to look at what things make me feel good. I added them in and it flowed sort of natually.
- Daily affirmations on waking ( which I already did before but now for longer)
- Daily gratitude statements
- Morning yoga
- More time with the family
- Home cooking
- Sitting and having a cup of tea in peace
- Talking to those who matter to me
- Interacting with friends in a more personal way
- And the best thing, a calmer and more positive state of mind
What I have learnt:
- Who I actually want to be around and those who I actually want to share my life’s up and downs with.
- That interactions with some people who really matter to me had reduced to social media. This is not what a friendship is for me.
- I sleep better sleep quality – I sleep well but that blue light, as I explain to those with sleep disorders, is going to impact melatonin levels.
- That I can live happily without knowing that a friend has had a cappacino and a blueberry muffin for breakfast, even if it has got a comical face of Donald Trump in the foam. And they, I am sure, don’t need to know that about me either.
- That I make sure I share anything important enough with those that matter to me anyway, but in a more personal manner. Remember phonecalls? I like phonecalls.
- That anything important enough is shared with me by those that I matter to anyway.
- That I can take photos just for me and for my family.
- That being on Facebook had actually become quite dominating , more than I realised anyway. But clearly my family already knew this.
- That my family were right!
- That spending time with friends on social media and interacting via a thumbs-up symbol just doesn’t cut it for me.
- I am more acceptance.
- A feeling of freedom- yes, be off with you Facebook.
Finally, I’m not going back – at least for personal use. I will dictate the terms and use it for work. In fact you may even be reading this via social media yourself. I take back control over and it can be so very amazing what happens when you face up to the reality of a situation, can’t it?