The Desire to Choose the Right Path For Your Future

Our freedom has recently increased a little after it had been reduced. The opportunities to meet those we love, to enjoy new adventures and to explore our world came to a standstill for a couple of months. Here in the UK at least.

However necessary it has been to lockdown, it has highlighted to me how important my freedom is. How I have always loved to do something different, go somewhere new and be autonomous.

At first for me the change into Lockdown was exciting. That was new but then my reaction didn’t surprise me. The feeling was short lived as adventure and exploration at home are certainly limited. I am now looking for ways to feel freedom and yet when I am outside I feel restrained. I thought I would be straight to the shops today but no I am feeling inhibited by the idea.

I desire the freedom to be me. Which way do I go now both literally and metaphorically? It is one of the reasons I work for myself so I don’t have to be accountable to others. I can make my own choices. Corona virus has, for some, been a time for contemplation about what matters in their life. Which is the right way to go now? What do I want? Paths in life can become rigid and set. You can become lost along your route. What we want or need is not always consciously obvious. A crisis can shake up things to see things from a new perspective.

Desire lines are a good analogy to decide your path.

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In hypnosis, I sometimes use the metaphor of the path ahead. It is ripe for understanding ourselves and creating optimistic futures. Which direction does the future lead? What will happen if you take the left path or maybe the right? Imaginary crossroads, junctions and desire lines have good scope for discovery of what a client really knows about themselves on a subconscious level. It can be a great way to use hypnotherapy for confide

However, actual physical paths are designed by architects and town planners. I do sometimes wonder why it seems they have assumed how we want to move about in our lives. Have the public actually been asked about their opinion? Paths seem to be put in a location because it was decided that it looked best there. As they say, to assume, is to make an ass out of you and me. 

However, actual physical paths are designed by architects and town planners. I do sometimes wonder why it seems they have assumed how we want to move about in our lives. Have the public actually been asked about their opinion? Paths seem to be put in a location because it was decided that it looked best there. As they say, to assume, is to make an ass out of you and me.

In reality, paths we prefer to walk usually represent the shortest or most easily navigated route between an origin and a destination. These are called desire lines or herd paths. Author, Robert Macfarlane calls them ‘free-will ways’. According to Wikipedia, a desire line is a path created as a consequence of erosion caused by human or animal foot traffic. Sheep make trails across moorland, trampling ferns as they go, walkers choose more direct trail from stile to stile. Desire paths become shortcuts from A to B.

For as long as I can remember I have been intrigued by desire lines.

However, a path that an architect designs may appear from their perspective to be practical but if our brains think it is not practical enough then we will make our own adjustments. Our brains figure this out quickly and we often don’t even notice this happening – we just do it. A desire line can apparently appear with just 15 uses.

According to an article in ‘The Guardian’, it reports that Riccardo Marini, an urban planner, likes to take into account people’s behaviour before he decides where paths will go. By watching human behaviour paths are added retrospectively once it is known how we will use a particular space.

When I walk I sometimes have an urge to go ‘off-piste’ and travel a new direction. I want to explore. I can see a set of steps or a path that has been designed and installed and then I just have an instinct to go a different way. We all do this. We may take a route up a slope or cut across a corner because subconsciously it makes much more sense to do that to get to our destination.

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It’s a tiny bit of anarchy to make our own choices and to walk the way we want. I love that personally. Why walk that way around the village green when the most direct route is straight through the middle? I feel like I create my world and I will continue to be fascinated by desire lines and our human instinct.

Freedom is returning, albeit gradually. We can wander the paths of our villages, towns and cities perhaps those created by architects or one we choose to take. All paths, real or imaginary, designed or inspired lead us somewhere. Our brains use neural pathways to subconsciously make decisions about our lives all the time. If we are unsure about our future, what to do next it is normal to feel some anxiety. Our minds makes automatic decisions based on schemas (a relationship between patterns of thoughts and behaviours) to keep us feeling safe, to free ourselves from this angst or anxiety. For example, perhaps you eat a Mars Bar when the going gets tough or you retreat home when panic arises. Hypnotherapy can help you to make the right choices for your future and, like desire lines, get there with the best and most direct route for you.

Do you desire to take a new route in life?

If you want help to know the right path for your future, understand more about what you desire and where to go, then hypnotherapy can help you to find your confidence for self discovery. Get in touch today for more information or to book an online therapy appointment with Amy wherever you are in UK.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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